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I started watching Homeland season 3 today. I had recorded it. I love this series. What surprised me is that Mira, Saul’s wife, is falling for her French colleague. She is clearly married but it didn’t deter then from having dinner (and possibly more) at her marital home. This made me wonder: are French men irresistible? Honestly, she must be pretty smitten to do this.

What makes French men so appealing? Is it a stereotype only? Come to think of it, well, I am not sure it is. I would know, I used to be surrounded by French men because I studied science. At some point, we were 3 girls out of 50 students. Ah, memories!

First of all, French men know how to dress. They are always immaculate and don’t do fashion faux pas such as wearing too many stripes or having sport socks with a business suit. Take note. They also seem to look good effortlessly. This is obviously not true. I had to give up having a shower in the morning because my husband spends forever in the bathroom. I shower in the evening. Sad but true. Relationships are about compromise. In France, in the UK and also anywhere else. Sigh.

French guys -young or old- also keep the door open for you. They wait for you even when you have to trot in high heels. They make it look completely natural. It doesn’t feel sexist or anything. They don’t slam the door in your face as is so often the case over here. They make sure that you go home safely after a night out, even if you are not particularly friendly. Not in the UK. A few years ago, after an office Christmas party, I was slightly drunk (you have to let your hair down sometimes, right?). My British colleagues didn’t make sure I managed to get back home. They couldn’t care less. This is something a French guy would not do, not even to his worst enemy. I am still shocked. They didn’t understand why I was a lot less nice to them the day after. They still don’t. Anyway: lesson learned – I don’t get drunk anymore. Or at least not with British guys

And then, there is the myth of the French lover. Ah, the French lover…according to some friends of mine, it is about the accent. I don’t get it. I don’t hear it. Maybe I am becoming cynical, after all. The french accent doesn’t do anything for me.

In short, yes, there is such a thing as a French identity. But French men being irresistible…I still think that Mira is making a huge mistake!

Muriel – A French Yummy Mummy In London