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Never. It must be a French thing. I hadn’t realised that there was a bikini police, but apparently when a woman hits 35 or 40 she has to dress more conservatively. This means that we are not supposed to wear crop tops, mini skirts, or bikinis. I know that it may come to a shock to you but although I feel 25 in my head my official age says something slightly different. What can I say? Time flies. It’s part of the many unwritten rules more mature women have to follow: dress sensibly.

Seriously? Says who?


My response is as follows: enough with the fashion diktats. In fact, I believe that it should be a woman’s duty to wear a bikini. Don’t get me wrong, I am not patronising anyone here. I just believe that wearing a bikini at the swimming pool or the beach is just as normal as breathing or walking. Why? Because no woman, of whatever age or shape, should be ashamed of her body. There it is. It must be my French side. I shocked a few when I posted a picture of myself with my white bikini at the pool in sunny Singapore (yes I wear bikinis. What a shocker ! And yes I am normal).

So, tell me, when did we become such prudes? I remember that most women were sunbathing topless in France when I was growing up, and nobody batted an eyelid. Some were well in their 70s or even 80s. Others had scars of an old C-section. And what was wrong with stretch marks again? Nobody cared. Your body was telling your story. Frankly, there was nothing to be ashamed of. Quite the opposite, in fact. You were showing that you were proud of your life story. What happened? Where did it all go wrong?

We have reached a different stage. Only a happy few can be now photographed in bikinis. You need to be young & sexy, and preferably not too chubby. You need to be stylish and well-groomed.

For various reasons, being fashion, religion or self-esteem, women’s body is now something to hide. Or denigrate. And I believe that’s the real shame.

As much as I respect the right for anyone to wear what he/she likes (as long as you don’t flash your private parts in public, obviously ), these new rules bother me. Have you noticed that it is always about control in general, and controlling women in particular? Personally, I have had enough. I will do as I please. Yes, I am older, and if I want to wear a bikini I will do so. Period.

I say it’s time to unleash your inner French, and wear a bikini, or whatever you like. Go for the crop top if you must. Post the pictures on social media. In fact, I am now thinking of getting a huge henna dragon tattoo on my back, and doing a photoshoot with it. It’s all those silly rules, you see. It makes me want to break them. Once again, it must be my French side.