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I think that my home country is in denial. The French president told the nation yesterday that France is in recovery. France is in the midst of the deepest economical crisis but don’t worry, everything will be fine. The number of job seekers keeps increasing, but we are in recovery. Recovery, my foot.

This made me think. Maybe, after all, we need denial. We crave denial. Life would be so boring without denial. So, after all, denial might be a good thing, don’t you think?

Maybe, if we believe hard enough that we are in recovery, well, we will be in recovery eventually? If only it were as simple as this.

It made me think of an old flatmate at university. She was lovely, beautiful and intelligent. She was also dating a (French) guy who already had a girlfriend. She was in complete denial about the whole thing. It was love, you see. He was her soulmate. He was going to leave his girlfriend for her. He was the one, according to her.

Me being me, I told her to stay safe and use, well, rubber. She was shocked. How could I ? Silly old me. We drifted apart.

He did leave the girlfriend, but it took him a few years. Soulmate, my foot.

Fifteen years down the line, she is divorced with two young kids and he is married to a much younger woman expecting their second child.

Who am I to judge? She was happy with a lothario for a long time, after all. That said, I can’t help thinking that her denial didn’t help. Denial is not always helpful, after all.

So, are we all in denial? Wouldn’t it be better to face the music and implement some much-needed reforms before it is too late? The problem is that it takes a lot of courage to face the truth.

As for me, the result is the same. France and me are drifting apart.

Muriel – A French Yummy Mummy In London
  • Carol

    I sometimes have to pretend that everything will work out all right or I just couldn’t get on with the day. Denial yes, but it helps to get on with things. Loved your example.

  • Suerae Stein

    Of course denial is the first stage of grief. It seems that we need to experience this emotion in order to survive a loss. Once we’ve gone through denial, we are able to move on to anger, etc. So perhaps in some cases it is necessary, but as far as a whole country is concerned, it may not be so healthy!

  • France may be in denial- but it is joined by most major (and minor) countries around the world. Here in the US, we have Congressfolks who think slashing the budget will make things right- even though no one will be spending any money and the economy will tank big time. So, they can slash it again (since tax revenues will drop)- but that’s their goal- to destroy government. (Why do these idiots even run for office if they hate it so???)

  • Jenny

    I have a built in dislike of denial and believe in facing up to as much as I can. But sometimes I can go the other way and get really depressed about how bad everything is. I’m still not sure if denial is best. Sometimes the worst doesn’t happen !

  • AnnMullen

    Deny. Deny. Deny. It will only get you so far. Yes, it is necessary for the grieving process and perhaps that’s why so many countries are in denial. But how long can a person or country stay there? Carol, I agree with you in that some days denial is the only river to float up. But we will bump into reality eventually. Roy, only politicians can be so dumb about finances. They are, after all, for the most part, lawyers. That’s a whole different discipline or lack thereof.

  • CARO NESS

    Isn’t EVERY government/country in a state of denial?

  • MuMuGB

    Maybe. That said, if there were a scale in denial, France would be up there!

  • MuMuGB

    Denial can only get you so far. I am really worried about the future of my home country.

  • MuMuGB

    It is all a matter of perspective, right? I think that it is important to face the truth, but staying positive is key too. Easier said than done, I agree.

  • MuMuGB

    It is a complicated issue, isn’t it? I believe more in spending money where it makes a difference rather than throwing money at a problem, which sometimes happens. That said, we need a minimum of services and the cuts are endangering this.

  • MuMuGB

    As long as denial is limited in time then you are right, it might help. But I don’t think that it is the case here. We will see what happens!

  • MuMuGB

    Glad you like my example. Unfortunately, it is a true story!