My life is incredibly busy…and incredibly boring as well. Don’t get me wrong: boring is good. I suppose that, when I say “boring”, I mean conventional. Again, “conventional” works for me. There is, however, something that bugs me since the DSK affair (see here).
My question is: when did it become acceptable for powerful men to be stupid?
There are numerous examples: look at DSK, a known womaniser now accused of assault against a maid in Manhattan. Even his (gorgeous and intelligent) wife seems to excuse his numerous indiscretions, as apparently “it is important for politicians to be able to seduce”. Give me a break.
To make matters worse, another French politician, George Tron, had to resign for alleged assaults towards two members of his staff. It was well known, in informed circles, that he was a foot fetishist (I didn’t even know such a thing existed. Ignorance is bliss).
It has been said that all of this is because French women have put up with such behaviours for so long without saying anything, and I have read lots of negative comments about how French feminism is weak and has, in fact, let this happen. Come on, sisters, that’s too easy an explanation.
Let’s have a look elsewhere: we have Arnie and his love child ( with the housekeeper- can you imagine what his wife must be going through? No wonder she said “hasta la vista baby” and, in my view, he deserves to be taken to the cleaners ). Then, John Edwards fathered a child out of wedlock while his (brilliant and beautiful) wife was sick with cancer and denied everything for a couple of years. The list is endless…
In short, I don’t believe that such attitudes have anything to do with nationalities. I think it has to do with power and the implied assumption that powerful people can get away with anything, it is somehow excused because of what they “give” to society. I will go even further: in some circles, debauchery is seen as “cool”. Reading the “Sunday Times” this morning proved it to me again: the philosopher Freddie Ayer has lots of extra-marital affairs and her stepdaughter Gully Wells describes the very special parties that went on in her youth. Personally, I believe her. This self-proclaimed intelligentsia believes that what society expects from them is “bourgeois” and that rules are made to be broken. Or they are above the law because they are after a greater good…Acting like petulant teenagers somehow flatters their oversized ego and seems to be part of the package deal.
Don’t get me wrong: I am not a paragon of virtue, and I am all about supporting our hard-earned freedom. We all make mistakes, and I have yet to meet someone perfect. I just believe that life is too short to hurt people with such twisted attitudes. Because, inevitably, people get hurt. And if people are hurt, isn’t it better to be honest?…
So why do we sometimes overlook what powerful men do? They obviously have a right to a private life. But is it right to accept that great economists, promising politicians or philosophers behave in appalling ways? Where do we draw the line? Well, for starters: no-one is above the law. And what happened to leading by exemplarity?
Muriel – A French Yummy Mummy In London