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It has just happened again. I didn’t get a position I had applied for. I am feeling, once again, like a complete failure. That said, I must admit that Brits are very polite. At all times and in all circumstances. They will always try to make it easier for you by sugarcoating their responses instead of simply saying ‘No’ or ‘you are not in’. I thought that I should copy you the email I got to prove my point. Here we go:

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” Dear Muriel [They like to personnalise things. I am pretty sure that they sent the same letter to everybody, right?]
Firstly, please accept my apologies for the delay in responding to you.  We received a very large level of response and interest on this project and wanted to ensure that we considered all applications carefully. [Yeah right. It’s been 8 weeks. How were the hols? Did you get away for half-term? What a bunch of lazy lumps!]

The fact that we have had such high levels of interest has also meant that we have been able to identify individuals who exactly meet the brief. [Which means I didn’t, right? So why exactly? Could you please spare me the waffle for once?]
Whilst your background and experience is interesting and in many ways relevant, we have decided not to progress your application [The fact that everybody must receive the same latter makes my French blood boil. What a bunch of hypocrites! Why can’t they say what was wrong with my application?]
I’m sorry that we are unable to progress this further but if you are agreeable, we are happy to keep you on our radar for other searches that we are mandated on.  We shall assume that this is acceptable unless you tell us otherwise and of course, we will be in contact with you to discuss this first if any of the opportunities seem appropriate.[But of course. That said, why do I have the feeling that they will never come back to me? Oh wait! Because every time I received such a letter, I was never ever contacted again. Not once. Been there. Done it.]
I hope that we can communicate about something else in due course. [Who said something like ‘promises are like pie crusts, they are made to be broken?]
Thanks Muriel.[How tactful! They use my first name. Again. Why do I have the feeling that they didn’t even look at my CV?]
Kind regards
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What can I say? Well, I am upset. I honestly believe that the British are just trying to be nice. They are genuinely trying to soften the shock of the rejection.

That said, does it make it easier to be rejected politely?

Simply put: no, it doesn’t. I think that I would prefer an honest explanation of why I didn’t get what I wanted, with quantified justification (it must be a French thing, I love numbers…).

Seriously, why are they so polite? Why do I hate it? Why is it so difficult to say “No”. I don’t understand. I just don’t get it. And why didn’t I get the job? Please, just say no, because rejection should be like taking off a BandAid: to the point and quick.

Having said this, I badly need to learn to be polite too, because Brits are so sensitive that if someone tells them what they really think of them they have to go and have a little weep hidden in a corner…They need the sugar-coating. Are they wimps? I sometimes wonder.

As for jobs, well, I suppose I will have to continue to look for something I like. Oh, and there are some news: my book, Le Guide Officiel To being British, can be pre-ordered on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Officiel-Being-British-Citizen-ebook/dp/B01GOH6U2E/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1465309175&sr=8-1&keywords=muriel+demarcus. Yep, you read this right. It will be released on the 20st of June. Wish me luck!

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