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It happened again the other day. What am I talking about? I had another formal dinner, and I wanted to look my best. Why do I still care? Well, I don’t know. It’s mainly for me, I suppose: despite the fact that I am not getting any younger, I still like to look nice. Maybe it’s my French side? And it was also for my husband. I didn’t want people to think that I was letting myself go. I didn’t want to become yet another invisible middle-aged woman. There was only one thing for it: preparation. So I had everything covered. Of course I did.

When you work, have kids, older parents and PTA meetings, the logistics can be daunting. It’s all about planing in advance to make it look effortlessly. The outfit was chosen 10 days before the event. As you know, I don’t buy any more, I rent (https://rentez-vous.com). It’s cheaper, much more fun, and I can change more often, which means that I never have to wear the same dress twice. I borrowed the shoes from a friend (Which was a huge leap of faith because I don’t walk in high heels for more than five minutes). Then, I planned all the eyebrow shaping, waxing, etc…Finally I had to have my hair and make-up done a few hours before the event (because as I have a scientific background, doing my own hair and make up isn’t my strongest point -can you hear the British understatement here?). A woman’s got to do what a woman’s got to do.

In short, I’d like to tell you that it was all easy, but the truth is that it was anything but, and I kept running around like a headless chicken the whole day. Not to mention that I had to go to a school meeting fully made up (but with casual clothes, as I put on the dress at the last minute), which raised a few eyebrows, but hey, I felt I had no choice because the meeting was right before the dinner. Anyway, we got there in the end, and I was extremely pleased with the result. What do you think?

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Needless to say, my efforts didn’t go unnoticed, and I got plenty of comments, from ‘You look nice!’ to ‘There is no need to make such an effort to look good. After all, why isn’t it the same for men?’. I almost felt like I was letting the sisterhood down, because of all the recent debates on high heels and make-up. But do you know what? I will look the way I want to look, and that’s the end of it. And what’s wrong with taking care of yourself? Nothing, right? In fact, we should do it more often, because it makes us feel like goddesses.

Of course I will age (don’t we all?). Of course I will have gray hair and wrinkles. But somehow I think I owe it to myself to be the best I can be. It’s all about keeping a positive mental attitude, right? Well, that’s my excuse anyway. And what’s wrong with unleashing your inner goddess ? I think we should make the most of it…

 

There are lots of other exciting news I wanted also to share with you. First of all, welcome to all the new visitors (I have had lots of referrals recently). If you want to have a flavour of my blog, here are three posts that I believe you will like:

You can read more about me on my brand new book, available on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=muriel+demarcus

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Finally, I also happen to run ultra-marathons, and I am fund raising for Action Aid in September. I will be running 100k (yes, in one go, and hopefully without stopping) and it would mean the world to me if you could sponsor me or send me words or encouragement or simply spread the word. You can read more about it here: https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/Muriel-Demarcus

 

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  • James Casserly Omaexlibris

    Exactly the right attitude Muriel. Dress the way you feel is right for you, not to fit some agenda of others. You look fantastic.

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    Let yourself go! When you stop running and the associated training then you might have gone but until then! By the way, there are some British women who turn up at primary school in their pyjamas!

  • Jena C. Henry Author

    You look lovely! Thanks for sharing!